Worth spoke with singer Michelle Williams about mental health, treating depression and how she hopes telling her story can inspire other people struggling to seek help.
Photography by Derek Blanks Photography
Talking about mental health is not easy, but singer Michelle Williams, who was diagnosed with depression, believes that always opening helps. Mental health is an issue that, fortunately, over time has become less taboo in society, especially because we are discovering that it affects many people to some extent. In March 2020, mental health disorders increased due to quarantine during the COVID-19 blockade. He stressed the importance of each individual giving priority to their mood. However, now that we are entering the post-pandemic era, it is crucial that, as a society, we continue to focus on our overall well-being. The fact that brave people like Williams tell their story can encourage others to seek the help they need.
On May 25, Williams published a full-length self-help book, Checking In: How Getting Real on Depression Saved My Life – and Can Save Yours, in which she was sincere about her experience with depression in honor of the month. of mental health awareness and Virtual event for strategic clients for UBS athletes and artists. Recently, the lead singer of The Destiny’s Child chatted on the phone with Worth to talk about how her journey has been and how she hopes to help others who are struggling.
Some of Williams’ comments have been edited for brevity and clarity.
P: Congratulations on your new book. How have you been since it was published?
A: I feel good. I really do. We are here. We succeeded. Is here. Two years have passed in progress.
Can you tell me a little about your book? What inspired you to write it and why release it now?
Yes, it is said Billing – How Saving Depression Saved My Life and How It Can Save You. And it’s just a practical memory of my life. But it has practical tools. I keep it real and only stay on the ground during delivery so people can know it’s okay to get help to process pain and trauma. Even if you don’t know what that is … whether it’s pain or trauma … there will be someone who can help guide you through what you’ve heard.
Is there anyone who has helped you to be so vulnerable and open to everything you have experienced?
Well, I’ll tell you. I started talking about it around 2013. It was by chance, it really was. I just explained it in an interview because the interview was very conversational; the boy was very kind and i just felt like he was a friend. And I just told my story a little bit. And he would say to me, “Oh God, I had never revealed it.” But over the years, there have been people … I will never forget the first time Charlamagne, when God began to talk about it The Breakfast Club, that morning [radio] show. They talk to millions of people every day. And I thought it was huge for him to talk about his journey. Actress Jenifer Lewis has also been so transparent about her trip.
You said “I need help” is the most important thing that can be said. Can you delve into why you believe it?
Yes, that’s one of the things I say in the book. This is one of the most amazing things a person can say. They are probably the strongest words a person can say. I mean, telling someone you love them are some of the most vulnerable words or the most sincere words you can say, but go the other way and say, “Because I love you and pray that you still have love for me after explaining “I don’t need help. I don’t feel well, I don’t know how I feel or I know that I feel towards a place where this doesn’t feel normal.”
Is there anything that has led you to realize that I need help? Is there a significant moment that made you want to seek help?
Yes, definitely. In the book I dedicate myself very much to the detail of this moment. But overall, I can tell when I didn’t feel safe with myself … I’m a house man, I love being alone. So when I didn’t feel safe just with myself, I would say, “Yeah, you have to go get some more treatment.”
You once admitted that while you were touring with Destiny’s Child, you felt depressed. How do you deal with depression while you have to go to work yet?
My depression started in seventh grade. Destiny’s Child was not the cause of my depression or anything like that. And it was just for a moment, it wasn’t my whole stay in the group. Just for a moment there, I was able to feel symptoms of what seemed familiar to me when I was little at school. So I could say that something was happening again; I didn’t feel well.
What is the most important thing you have learned from this journey with mental health in general and in terms of success?
Make sure you always keep it real with a person in your life. I pray that everyone has a safe person or a therapist they can call … just get the help you need. Your best friends are not necessarily equipped to handle many of our problems. Now they can be there to listen. It wouldn’t be fair … I make sure I don’t let my friends go. Sometimes I wonder, “Hey, do you have the emotional capacity to handle this?” Because a lot of my friends are moms and wives, so you just want to make sure. But if you have a therapist, it’s what they pay to do them, for them to be heard.
What advice do you have for other people who suffer from their mental health?
The advice I have for other people who are struggling is to just know that it is very loud that you say these three words, “I need help” or “I’m not well.” And to stay steady at his pace, at his pace. I [what I mean] that is, you already know the pace and speed at which you can move. Be consistent with your step. Set boundaries. People will adapt to your limits for sure. You do not need to announce all settings. You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. If you get used to saying “yes” all the time, practice “no”.
How vulnerable has it been to help your personal relationship with yourself, other people, and work?
It has definitely improved. There are times when I have stopped to say to someone, “Hey, I didn’t appreciate it. Can we re-evaluate where we could both have made a mistake? “Relationships are everything. You want to make sure you keep them well. At least my friends love honesty, and I love their honesty. Not long ago, I asked my best friend and said, “Hey, I just want to ask myself is there any area where I can be a best friend?”
Knowing everything you know now, is there anything you wish you could tell your younger being?
That sometimes much of what a child feels is not their burden. Now, as a child, sometimes we are sponges and we feel everything. But it is not our burden to carry and try to fix what happens to the adults around us. Be a child. And then, I wish I had the courage as a kid to even have better conversations with my parents about how I feel.
I think mental health and breaking down generational curses can sometimes go hand in hand, but talking about these issues leads to better relationships. Do you agree?
Absolutely. Talk about it because there are times when I think our parents didn’t want to. I don’t even think our grandparents wanted to do that. But, to transmit this generational trauma: are it generational curses or generational traumas, too, that you transmit from generation to generation … how do parents discipline the child? Some of them can go through trauma.
Is it something you’ve learned, in which you feel that because you’ve gone through something, you won’t repeat the same mistakes?
Yes, absolutely. You know how this pain feels and it also makes you want to apologize faster. You are human, we are human, we will not be perfect. So we need to give ourselves space and grace for when we do it involuntarily, possibly hurt someone, or how we can respond. We may be quick with our response and not think about it before responding. So even if you make a mistake, I think the tools I have make me say instantly, “Oh, God! I’m sorry, I didn’t mean that. Let me rephrase this differently. “
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